I am passionate about working with people facing transitional challenges in their lives: those facing loss and grief; those growing out of long-established roles; those seeking to grow in ways that evoke fear and doubt; those yearning to free themselves from the grip of their trauma. When we are called to open to new ways of being, “shadow” emotions also emerge: anger, shame, sadness… I guide people, gently and skillfully, through the rewarding but often painful process of opening by using methods validated by the latest developments in neuroscience. Why not take the path that leads home?
Those methods include: 1.) developing a mindful, witnessing capacity that helps short-circuit the reactivity that causes suffering; 2.) choosing kindness for self when possible; 3.) utilizing internal and external resources; 4.) exploring past events/emotions that still find harmful expression in your life; and 5.) expressing those emotions consciously.
I draw from Humanistic and Jungian psychology, Buddhist psychology and other mindfulness-based approaches (like Dialectical-Behavior Therapy and Dan Siegel’s teachings), Gestalt, Pragmatic/Experiential Therapy for Couples (PET-C), in-depth trauma training, a fifteen-year meditation practice, clinical experience, and my own path of healing.
For an understanding of how I view the process of healing, please visit my blog Soul Retrieval at http://www.tomoneilltherapy.com/single-post/2017/03/19/Soul-Retrieval
At the age of 52, I have a lot of miles under the hood. In my first career as an editor and a writer, I explored my passion for human psychology through reporting and storytelling. Intense exposure to wars, politicians, and poverty can really make you contemplate the meaning of it all. Not coincidently, I was examining my own life, growing to understand that the defenses I had formed around my wounding served to protect me, yes, but also kept me from fulfilling my potential. And that was just the beginning of the journey. Meanwhile, I grew to realize that as I healed, I longed to help others heal, and soon turned toward a career in psychotherapy. As a Contemplative Psychotherapist, I am interested in deepening my clients’ capacity to open to themselves in all their wondrous and wild complexity. I consider it a sacred unfolding, not without its pain, but vital to living a life of depth and intimacy. I am so grateful that I get to do this work, to watch my clients discover their own beauty, trust the ground of their own nature.
PROFESSIONAL TRAININGS » Trauma-Informed Counseling Practice: Transforming the Well-Intentioned Therapist Training (15.0 Contact Hours), May 2015; Noeticus Counseling Center and Training Institute, Denver, CO. » Motivational Interviewing Training (15.0 Contact Hours), August 2015; Noeticus Counseling Center and Training Institute, Denver, CO. » Dialectical Behavior Therapy Training (15.0 Contact Hours), June 2015; Noeticus Counseling Center and Training Institute, Denver, CO. » Mindful Recovery Training for Individuals Working with Addiction (5.0 Contact Hours), April 2016; Noeticus Counseling Center and Training Institute, Denver, CO. » Prepare and Enrich Training for couples counseling (8.0 Contact Hours: Prepare and Enrich Certification), April 2016; Noeticus Counseling Center and Training Institute, Denver, CO. » Introduction to Gestalt Therapy for Mental Health Professionals (15.0 Contact Hours), July 2014; Noeticus Counseling Center and Training Institute, Denver, CO. » Immersive Meditation Training (over 600 Hours), July 2005 through June 2015; various retreat centers
Skills and Expertise
Abuse / Survivors of Abuse
Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions
Loss or Grief
Mens Issues and Problems
Mindfulness based therapy
Trauma and PTSD
DBT Informed Therapy
Trauma Focused Therapy