Anya Surnitsky
Licensed Clinical Social Worker - LCSW, CCTP II, TIST I
Many times, when we feel unfulfilled, it’s because we’re living someone else’s life. Without realizing it, we’re living our life based on other people’s rules, standards, habits, or beliefs. We haven’t made those choices for ourselves, so, even when we seem successful to others, we feel empty and unfulfilled. This emptiness can lead us to make choices that end up being self-destructive (alcohol, relationships, workaholism, etc).
When we realize this issue, the voice of our pesky inner critic can creep in with phrases such as, “I should be able to work on this myself. It shouldn’t be so hard. Do I really need someone to help me?” The self-doubt, dismissive tone, and minimizing thought process actually turns up the volume on your feelings of unworthiness and not being good enough.
The truth is, we all need emotional maintenance, just as we get maintenance on our cars, our lawns, our electronic devices, our bodies at the doctor, etc. Why do we minimize and criticize the need for attention to these emotional matters that affect so much in our lives?
A lot of people think they don’t have the permission or don’t deserve it. Maybe we don’t need to spend the time and money on ourselves. When we ignore our emotional red flags, the signs and symptoms that we need maintenance only get stronger, louder, and more evident.
It’s time to stop shame from hijacking your life and your dreams, your creativity, your sense of worth and intrinsic value. You get to step into yourself and grab the wheel of your own life.
Skills and Expertise
codependency-2
Compulsive Spending and Shopping
Control Issues
Depression
Midlife Crisis
Anxiety
Cyclothymia
Fear
Guilt
Irritability
Inadequacy
Emotional Abuse
Family of Origin Issues
Health Illness and Medical Issues
Mood Disorders
Parenting
Postpartum Depression
Relationship Issues
Sexual Abuse
Self-Harming
Sexual assault
Trauma and PTSD
Trauma
Treatment Orientation
Eclectic
Therapy unique to each client
EMDR
experiential
IFS
Somatic
Telehealth-based
Trauma Focused Therapy
Modality